As a woman part of the curve community, there are some things I feel like trolls and commenters just make up for the sake of an argument, or to try to separate themselves from the crowd. And in particular, commenters come out the wood work when it’s pertaining to a celebrity, like Ariel Winter. When she wore shorts a couple weeks ago, publications deemed her as dressing “provocatively” and stepping out of her comfort zone (absurd, I know, they’re just denim shorts). And then people attacked her even further for wearing a dress with under boob, and not apologizing for it, even after people told her it was ‘inappropriate for someone her size.’

Couldn't be more grateful to @shanelle_gray & @davidbarrygray for throwing me the most amazing graduation party ever last night…the amount of love and support they've shown me for the past four years has been life changing. My sister is my absolute best friend and my everything…❤️ Thank you so much. I couldn't be luckier or more grateful. I was in awe last night and I still am that you guys love me that much to do all of that for me…I never would be where I am today without you two…you guys saved me and taught me to be the person I am today. Dad…I love you!!! Thank you for always being there to support and love me as well and always put a smile on my face no matter what :). I'm so grateful for the bond we now share. Alenah the song you put together with Shanelle and recorded for me was one of the most special gifts I've ever received. I'm still tearing up thinking about it. Thank you for that and for your beautiful, special performance. Also a big thank you so much to Geraldine for putting it all together and to @contemporarycatering @robpauerful for the most amazing food! A special thank you as well to Sharon who is probably the biggest reason I was able to get through high school and accepted into college…you pushed me to always do my best and encouraged me…not to mention you were always there for my 1am freak outs about late projects 🙂 Anddddd thank you SO MUCH to all of my amazing family members and friends that flew in to celebrate with us- you guys are the absolute best. Thank you also to the ones who didn't have to fly in…so much love was felt all around last night. Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!! Class of 2016…❤️ #uclabound

A photo posted by Ariel Winter (@arielwinter) on Jun 19, 2016 at 11:57pm PDT

And there seems to be a particular obsession with Ariel Winter’s version of body positivity–and what makes her feel good about her body. In recent months she’s really been at the center of body image conversations, inserting herself in debates and topics with fans on social media, so it’s no surprise that she becomes a target for these kinds of things. What does surprise me is that people have found the audacity to try to tell someone else how to find confidence, and that if you’re dressing too sexy you are desperately seeking attention instead of just loving what you’ve been given. Yahoo Style recently interviewed Carole Lierberman a psychiatrist who said, “I believe Ariel’s dress is a classic case of an insecure girl trying too hard to get attention and to be thought of as sexy.” Hold on here–let’s get some facts straight: Ariel is 18 years old, wearing shorts or a tight skirt does not make you insecure, and would people really be analyzing the way she dresses if she fit into sample sizes? I don’t hear people commenting on the emotional stability of stars like Kendall Jenner, Bella Thorne or Gigi Hadid, and they wear small crop tops, jean shorts, side boob dresses and everything in between.

Dear sorry body-shamers, I looked HOT in that dress. And if you hate it, don't buy it. But please get a hobby. XOXO Ariel #EmbraceYourBody

— Ariel Winter (@arielwinter1) June 23, 2016

And while I do agree with critics that no, you don’t have to show off your body at all times to prove a point, there’s a fine line between shaming her for embracing her body and having a preference for conservatism. She has the right to wear a tight dress to her graduation, which is exactly what I wore to my graduation because I wanted to look bomb. Use your time more wisely haters.